What if my child shows absolutely no interest in playing or practicing?
When is it time to quit?

Almost every child will experience "plateaus" - times when she makes little progress despite regular practice and effort. This normal as is the accompanying frustration. Be supportive of your child during these periods. They will pass. You both will require an extra dose of patience during this time. During practice sessions, make a special effort to point out the good things your child is doing and minimize the negatives. Also, suggest that your child go back and review easier pieces if he is becoming exasperated with new material.

Sometimes merely taking a break for a year or so can make a tremendous difference in how a child feels about the study of music. But if the negative attitude continues and intensifies, then encourage your child to explore other creative outlets. Forcing a child to continue to practice and attend weekly lessons after all signs of interest have vanished is counterproductive and may result in a long-standing resistance to future music education.

Music should be an enriching part of every child's life. Learning to play an instrument can lead to involvement in ensemble activities in secondary school and beyond, while building a skill that will be with your child for a lifetime. Even if your child shows no interest in learning an instrument, be sure to expose him or her to a wide range of musical styles. Libraries can be great sources for children's music from many cultures. Who knows where or when inspiration may strike?

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