The first anniversary of September 11 is likely to be a significant event throughout the country. While most people have overcome their initial reactions to the attacks, the anniversary of the tragedy may re-awaken intense feelings in both children and adults. This is particularly true for individuals who were directly affected by the events. Parents should be prepared to help their children cope during the potentially difficult period leading up to and immediately following the anniversary-a time when children and youth will also be adjusting to the usual challenges of starting a new school year. The following suggestions can help parents best meet the needs of their children and families. (Click on each item for more information on that item.)

1. Be prepared for your children (and for you) to experience a resurfacing of emotions.

2. Be mindful of more severe reactions.

3. Allow your children opportunities to express their feelings.

4. Spend family time.

5. Maintain a normal routine but be flexible.

6. Share any concerns with your child's new teacher.

7. Reassure your children that they are safe.

8. Focus on your children's strengths.

9. Find out how your child's school is planning to handle the anniversary.

10. Be aware of the potential for bullying at school.

11. Help your child identify another trusted adult.

12. Remind your child to be respectful of other people's reactions.

13. Turn off the television and news radio.

14. Be aware of your own reactions.

15. Help your children decide if they want to participate in memorial activities.

16. Emphasize the positive.

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