Expect and Respond to Changes in Behavior

All children will likely display some signs of stress. Some immature, aggressive, oppositional behaviors are normal reactions to the uncertainty of this situation. It is important to maintain consistent expectations for behavior. Be sure children understand that the same rules apply.

Some children may have difficulty at bedtime, particularly those whose parents are on active duty. Maintain a regular bedtime routine. Be flexible about nightlights, siblings sharing a room, sleeping with special toys, and sitting with your child as they fall asleep. Doing so typically does not cause life-long habits.

Children may play "war," pretend to blow things up, or include images of violence in artwork and writing. This may be upsetting to adults, but it is a normal way for children to express their awareness and fears of events around them. Gently redirect children away from violent play, but don't be overly disapproving unless the play is genuinely aggressive. For children who seek pretend play as an outlet, encourage role playing of the doctors, firemen, policemen, etc. who have helped to save lives. If a child seems obsessed with violent thoughts or images for more than a few days, talk to a mental health professional.

Extra support, consistency, and patience will help children return to routines and their more usual behavior patterns. If children show extreme reactions (aggression, withdrawal, sleeping problems, suicidal talk, etc.), talk to your school psychologist regarding the symptoms of severe stress disorders and the possible need for a referral to a mental health agency. These reactions are most likely in children who have had previous mental health problems.

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